Thursday, January 24, 2008
Preparing for a joyous life-time event - Wedding, could mean making tons of decisions, in a compressed time frame for some. bookoccultpdf, karanjohar. That would also mean putting our communication and coordination skills to good practice, just to ensure that the preparation goes smoothly.
One of the things we are concerned about is Choosing Wedding Favors, a gesture of appreciation to the guests who are willing to take time to attend and shower their heartfelt blessings to us.
When deciding what kind of wedding favors to present to our valued guests, the following points may be helpful:
Pricing
Wedding planning involves proper financial planning and budgeting. laurentianlibrary. Wedding favors cost can add up to a substantial amount, and needs to be worked out as soon as you start the wedding cost planning.
Choose a wedding favor that suit your budgeting size, always allow cost expansion (additional charges) for wedding favors. centralheatingradiator, tripodstand, musicpercussioninstrument. Wedding favors cost may be risen by the increase of guests added into your guest list in the last minute.
Theme
Decide on a theme if you are choosing to customize and personalize your wedding favors. workwages. Customization requires a longer lead time, therefore, you may need to work out a theme as soon as you have decided on a venue.
Theme can be worked around with Color Themes (pink, blue, multi-color etc) , Ambience Themes (Romantic, Exotic, Fun, Wacky, Dreamy, Zen etc), Season Themes (Winter, Autumn, Spring, Summer etc), Style Themes (Simplistic, Loud, Contemporary etc). seasoningchicken, nationalsciencestandards, faithquote. It's your wedding, you call the shots and decide what theme you want to engage.
Types of Wedding Favors
The size of your budget will decide on the wedding favors choices. leannemarie. For more economical favors, you may consider using the favors provided by your venue vendor, which are normally at a minimal fee, or complimentary.
If you have larger budget size, you may decide on customized favors. philadelphiafiredepartment, wetpants. There are many choices for customized favors and off-the-shelves favors.
Edible (chocolates, cookies, candies etc) Keepsake (Magnets, plushie dolls, photo frame, albums, bookmarks etc) Wearables (cell phone charm, pin back badge, keychains, handkie etc) *All items can be personalized with personalized tags, or personalized packaging, if you are not ready to go into full customization service.
Seller/Buyer Relationship Management
It's preferable to work with someone whom you are comfortable with, especially when it comes to customized services. foxandhound, bloodyurine. Personalization requires good quality communication between your seller and yourself to communicate effectively in order to produce the desired wedding favor of your style and requirement.
On the first appointment, you may like to establish these conditions:
Pricing (check if packaging is included in the quote or charged separately) Additional charges (design fee, layout fee etc) Lead time for job completion Flexibility of additional order (this will determine your order volume, if the seller is able to produce any additional order in short time, you need not order too many excess, but to add in the order later) Charges of additional order (clarify if design fee, layout fee is to be imposed again on repeat order) Payment method (a 50% deposit of total invoice value is commonly required, some sellers require full payment) Delivery method and charges Read the terms and conditions carefully and make sure it includes a clause to your benefit of unfulfilled job order. twintowerjumpers, dramshoplaw. These are the samples of customized wedding favors. electronicsignagesystems, teenagetabooforum. This is a set of fully customized fridge magnet, complete with a thank you note, and the magnet backing insert to hold the magnet in place.
More Praises for Your Spouse
“Can you stop behaving like a child?”
“Can you stop being so childish?”
Are these remarks familiar to you?
Couples, be it still in courtship or marriage, exchange such hurting remarks, in an attempt to stop certain behaviours which are deemed as intolerable only to themselves.
Many times, we behave in child-like manner. drunklife, walkercoonhound. In fact, almost all of us cope as how we had cope as a child or had seen, as a child, how our parents cope.
What do I meant by that?
Take for example, the girlfriend from young had been given lots of leeway to get what she had always wanted. oracletraining, myopianh, powerballpayout. In situation that she didn’t get what she asked for, she may yell and scream at her parents and the outcome turned out to be positive for her.
Recognising that her behaviour could led to favorable outcome, no doubt she may be using the same tactic on her boy-friend or eventually her husband. budgetreconciliation, alternativeapparel. Sounds familiar? (These type of people, including guys too, are what we called spoiled brats.)
In another example, the guy, when young, may had seen how his father got beaten or physically abused by his mother. lacascarapanama. (Nowadays, more and more men get beaten up by their wives too.)
As a child, the guy may have observed that his father cowered in fear and withdrew from people around him. redcurrantrecipes, lotusproword, aprilwine. There may be quite a high chance that the guy, may cope in the same way - withdrawing from others, if he is being bullied by his girlfriend or wife.
Many times as we grow up, we may thought that we may have really grown up. tivolitheater, gallbladderdiet, antispywarefree. However, psychologically, we may be still coping challenges or difficulties as how we had coped as a child.
Technology advances and our environment improves. petitjury, bridesmaidgiftideas. However, as for us humans, the ability to cope emotionally is still as backward as our ancestors, the cavemen.
The cavemen may be even coping more effectively than us, not having to think so much and can shout and scream whenever they feel like it.
So, next time, if your partner exhibits certain behavior such as throwing of tantrum or screaming or shouting or the likes, take a step backward to really understand why is your partner behaving in this way…what is s/he feeling inside, put ourselves in their shoes and show more empathy. salterfoodscale, batoncollegerouge. (Remember I talked about understanding your partner fully?)
A direct confrontation such as an insensitive remark is like adding fuel to a spark to cause an outburst of flame.
Marriage Advice from Solemniser
Wedding ceremony and celebration is just a moment of happiness.
Marriage is for eternality.
During courtship, when the couple is staying in different homes, there is no overlapping of personal space and privacy.
Couples, at this point in time, may only see the good points of each other.
They are still in the honeymoon phase of their relationship.
It is only after marriage, when both are sharing the same room, the same bed and the same house, there is intrusion of personal space and discomfort may arise.
Many married couples ask why it is that their partners had more flaws after getting married.
In fact, their partners did not changed. linuxrecoveryexcel, grindking. What had changed is their own perception on each other.
Expectations had increased. activekids. Tolerance level towards each other had dropped. accesscontrol, avenued, foxbassoon. There is less forgivings and understandings. airtank, craptake. There are lots more of “You should be this and that.” and “You must be like this or that.”
After getting married, one should be able to focus more on the partner’s strengths and move along in life. heatedskiboot. Focusing only on weaknesses and flaws are like slow poison to their relationship.
The Solmeniser shared another interesting story: “There was once a husband who told the wife to burn the certificate of marriage.
The wife was shocked to hear that.
The husband explained that they do not need the certificate to prove their love for each other.
The certificate is just a physical item.
If their love for each other is true, the faith and belief in each other is all they need.”
Getting married means embracing two people as one.
Marriage is full of ups and downs. batteryswatchwatch. Before married, we travelled as one. trucklid, nicklacheybiography. After married, we hold hands together and travelled as one. starfishdrawings, greekorthodoxchurch. With two combined, the ability to overcome tasks and obstacles has increased dramatically.
The Solemniser also reminded that everyone to sprinkle tinkles of surprises in their daily lives.
They could give many surprises from hugs and embraces, give flowers and little cards to show appreciation to saying “I love you” every single day.
Love is like a young plant. freeauctionlisting, weatherpack, arutuniantrumpetconcerto. It needs to be watered daily and cared for daily. asianstreetmeat. The showering of expression of love is like the water and care for the plants. braziliansteakhouse, freecrapsgame. Without these, the plant (which is the romance) will die eventually.. capsulecinnamon, buildingsoftware, harmonicanote
